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Is clothing a sex toy?
One thing is
hard to deny: clothing is sexy. Whether it's a silk nightgown from Victoria's
Secret, a military uniform, the leather jacket of a biker or the riding
clothes of an equestrienne, some form of clothing is usually someone
else's ideal of "sexy clothing."
What
is Fetish Clothing?
Fetish wear
is usually clothing made of leather, latex, or rubber cut in a specific
style to accentuate the body and show it off in a sexually arousing
fashion. Fetish wear's most common characteristic: it's expensive. Apart
from that, it's as recognisable as lingerie and swimwear. Note: when
purchasing latex don't forget to purchase latex polish to avoid dissapointment.
So
what is sexy clothing?
That depends
on what you and your partner/s find sexy. You may find your partner
sexy in silk, while another person may find their partner sexy in leather,
lingerie denim, or uniform clothing. A more outrageous suggestion is
period clothing, such as the 1920's, or the 1400's. And even further
out, one could suggest wearing masks to allow fantasy to run riot -
animal masks are a popular item in this field. It's how the individual
uses their imagination as to what they believe to be sexy clothing.
When
did women begin wearing bras?
Originally,
women wore a sort of chemise under their corset, which was fitted to
just below the breasts, and offered some support. In the 1920's women
tried to flatten their chests by wrapping them in muslin. So when did
they begin wearing bras as bras? Well, you can actually find 'brassiere'-type
clothing back in ancient Egypt. And the Romans had the 'mamillaire'
(from the Latin, 'mammosa' and 'mammeata' meaning well-endowed -- looking
at the etymology, apparently there was some need for these mamillaires).
The use was basically the same: support. It was no more than a cloth
carefully wrapped around the chest to ensure less movement while either
doing the chores for the master. So the idea is not really new.
When
did panties come into fashion?
The 16th century
seems to be the point where French nobles found that they could make
their fancy clothes last longer by wearing undergarments - so one might
state that 'modern underwear' appeared at about this time. (I somehow
doubt that this as a decent starting point though.) One could argue
that even during the Dark Ages a lower layer of clothing was used as
a means of ensuring increased warmth and reduction in chafing. (For
example, think of the humble knight who had to wear those uncomfortable
cold metallic suits of Armour -- a lower layer of cloth was invaluable.)
It would only be a small step for nobles in the same time period extending
that to non-combat use. The only thing that seems to be consistent in
all the theories about these lower layers and their appearance is that
they probably appeared as people migrated into the colder climates.
What
is a butt plug?
Recently has
been considered a popular sex toy for adventurous straight and gay men,
It is similar to a dildo , however it has a bulge in the centre, much
like a spindle, so that the shaft gradually thickens, flares out, and
then begins to narrow again. Once inside the rectal cavity, the flare
of a well chosen 'butt plug' will rub directly against those nerve clusters
by the opening of the anus, the ones which signal your need to defecate.
Depending upon how your brain is wired, denying or understanding this
signal can be a very pleasurable experience, or an extremely uncomfortable
one. The 'tip' of the well-chosen 'butt plug' will rub against a man's
prostate when he moves, sending yet more signals of unknown quality
to the brain. It's all in what you like. (ref movie road trip - sperm
donation scene)
What
variants of the butt-plug are there?
Other forms
include 'doorknobs' or 'anal beads'. A 'doorknob' is a round sphere
of latex mounted on a narrower shaft. Like a 'butt plug', it 'plugs'
the orifice, but the sensations are different. Anal beads are a series
of spheres that can be anywhere from a half inch to three inches in
diameter that you use to 'stuff' the rectum to create a feeling of fullness.
The same concept is also available for the vagina and are typically
called love eggs.
What
is a dildo?
Webster's' dictionary
defines dildo as 'an artificial substitute for an erect penis'. Female
worshippers of Priapus were expected to lose their virginity to a statue
of this well-endowed Greek god of procreation. Some statues had outsized
removable wooded penises that could be used as dildos Tipu Sahib, sultan
of Mysore from 1782-99, gave dildos to the 600 women of his harem to
stop them playing with each other. At the same time, European ladies
took to wearing a mulierre, a strip of rough fabric that passed between
the legs and fastened to a belt, stimulating the clitoris as they walked.
No wonder 18th century women loved their "constitutionals". A dildo
is a sex toy, usually made of latex or silicone (jelly dildo or dong),
which is inserted into some bodily orifice for sexual pleasure. They
come in a number of different shapes and sizes, all with one thing in
common: they are a substitute or symbol for a real penis. Many women
use a dildo as they enjoy the feeling of something hard and thrusting
inside them during masturbation. Many men, gay or otherwise, feel the
same way, using small (or as your tastes go, large) dildos for anal
stimulation.
What
should I look for in buying a dildo?
There are a
number of factors to consider including: length, thickness, hardness
and texture. It is strongly recommended that you look for a dildo with
a smooth surface made of a firm, but not too firm material. The two
most common materials for a dildo are silicone and latex. Silicone (jelly
dildo) is usually more expensive, but most people who use dildos regularly
agree that its qualities of matching body temperature and its general
texture make it the superior material. The most important thing to remember
is that you should start small. Buy a dildo that you *know* you can
probably handle, rather than one you hope to be able to handle. The
dildo is considered to be the most basic form of a sex toy since they
have no moving parts.
The
history of Vibrators
Cleopatra 69-30BC
not only had the happiest Royal Guards in history (she was reputed to
perform fellatio on up to 100 of them in one session), she may also
have invented the first vibrator. Apparently, the Egyptian queens kept
a small box that she'd fill with bees and hold it against her clitoris..
What
types of Vibrators are there?
Vibrators come
in three distinct 'types'. Firstly, many women find satisfaction in
this most common (and more often thought of), classic penis-shaped,
battery powered shaft of plastic. These suffer, however, from a lack
of real power and inconvenient battery death. The second type of vibrator,
the 'wand vibrator', overcomes these problems with wall current. These
large, club-shaped vibrators provide LOTS of stimulation, and wall current
provides all the power you could ask for, but the designers apparently
intended for people not to view these things as sex toys, but as "personal
massagers," and the ungainliness of these things reflects that. The
third type of vibrator, the 'handle' or 'coil' type, looks vaguely like
a small hairdryer with a small, perpendicular shaft out of the thicker
end to accommodate a variety of soft plastic or latex heads. The best
of all possible worlds, these vibrators never die, fit in one hand,
and can provide a variety of sensations. Shower Massagers make a wonderful
variation on the classic vibrator, and if you enjoy the warmth and wetness
of the tub, you probably want to consider investing in a shower massager.
Like the wand and handle vibrators, shower massagers have a host of
uses beyond masturbation, too!
What
should I know about using a vibrator?
Before using
any mechanical vibrator, apply lubrication! Your lover probably does
not rank friction burns in the same category as love bites. Use a water-based
lubricant, such as K-Y (always recommended), Astroglide, or Wet.
Are
there any kinds of vibrators I should avoid?
Do not purchase
a vibrator specifically designed to deliver heat to the body as a sexual
device.
My
partner and I have never used a vibrator. What should I know?
Nobody knows
how to masturbate YOU better than you do. The same rule applies to everybody
else. Don't use a vibrator on someone else until you've watched him
or her use it on themselves, preferably several times. Men, especially,
should watch how their girlfriends or wives use the vibrator alone before
taking the reins.
Can
a vibrator replace me?
No mechanical
piece of plastic can replace the love and affection of a human being;
try to see the vibrator as just another sex toy, and not as competition.
Do
vibrators cause a woman to become less sensitive?
Some women do
experience a temporary 'desensitization' after the effects of a powerful
vibrator, but put the toy away for a week and sensitivity returns to
normal. There is no clinical evidence that vibrators cause long-term
desensitisation.
What
is a Penis Pump?
A clear, usually
acrylic cylinder that is placed around the penis . At the end of the
cylinder a hose is connected to either a hand pump, or an electric pump,
which evacuates air from the cylinder. As the air is removed from the
cylinder, the penis is pulled further into the cylinder and towards
the walls of the cylinder, making the penis larger. A penis pump falls
into the category of a sexual enhancer as it is not design to have you
reach orgasm therefore not strongly considered a sex toy.
Does
pumping work and how long will the results last?
Does pumping
work? How long will the results last? This depends on a number of factors:
the length of your pumping session; the frequency of your pumping sessions;
and the sizes you achieve with the pump on. It would be possible, with
daily pumping to maintain the increases constantly if you have the time
to pump that often, although most increases are temporary and the penis
returns to its normal size after a day or so. Many pumpers who have
been at it for several months or years will cite increases of an inch
or more, though documented hard evidence is difficult to come by. There
are numerous pictures and document cases of people stretching lips,
earlobes, and necks, so it stands to reason that continuous vacuum pumping
over a period of months or even years would result in a larger penis.
If you are circumcised you can also expect more loose skin on your penis,
so that you begin to develop a skin coverage of the penis head (a new
foreskin).
How
much of a gain can you expect?
This will vary
for each individual. Most get much larger increases in girth than in
length. The area just below the head of a penis that has been circumcised
will often get much larger than the rest of the penis in girth, after
being pumped for some time. It'll form sort of a fat, thick doughnut
around the penis, making the penis looked somewhat deformed. This occurs
only with long pumping sessions. The swelling in this area is disproportionate
to the rest of the penis, and usually takes longer to decrease in size
than the rest of the penis. It's difficult to say how much of an increase
in length will occur, but it's possible, while in the cylinder to gain
as much as 2 inches or more in length. Again, the increases in girth
will be much larger, and longer lasting. If you're more concerned about
getting increases in length it is suggested that you not buy a cylinder
which is too much larger than the width (though don't get it too small
in diameter - you need some room) so that your penis will get more of
a pull in length, in a long cylinder, than of pulling outward (girth).
How
do you get started?
For someone
who is serious about enlarging their penis through vacuum pumping: only
higher quality, more expensive pumps will work properly. Most of the
inexpensive ones are not able to achieve a high enough level of vacuum
to really work well, whereas the more expensive ones have higher quality
parts, form good seals with the body, and achieve high vacuum levels.
The inexpensive cylinders also tend to be made so cheaply that when
high levels of vacuum are achieved the cylinder actually starts to collapse.
Another thing that happens with them is the base of the cylinder will
flare out, as you apply increasing levels of vacuum, eventually destroying
the cylinder. You can get an excellent pump, which includes a cylinder,
and a hand pump, for as low as $100. One of the most popular makes of
a pump is known as a Magnum Penis Pump.
General
Advice on pumping
Shave the base
of your penis and testicles back about an inch or more so that when
you put the cylinder on you can get a good seal. It helps to apply the
pump with an erection, though it's not required. Pumps can be used to
obtain an erection, maintaining it erect with a ring, removing the pump
to engage in intercourse. Begin pumping up. You may wish to press the
cylinder against your body to keep your testicles from being pulled
up into the tube. This is painful for some men (though some men pump
them as well, to really big sizes). The important thing to remember
is to take it slow and gradual. Increasing the pressure too rapidly
will cause bruising. Don't be overly worried about it though. Enjoy
the experience. If you're healthy, any bruising usually goes away after
a day or so. Never push to the point of pain. If it becomes at all painful,
release some of the pressure. Pump it up until you're at the highest
vacuum level you can comfortably obtain. Leave it on for a while, watch
television, read a book, surf the Internet. To obtain the best results
from pumping you need to go for longer periods of time, an hour or more.
If you have more time, go for more. Your increases will be larger. As
your penis gets larger, increase the pressure some more, again, only
to the point where you are still comfortable and not in any pain. Most
men are amazed at the size increases, which are possible. It can be
quite pleasurable to see your penis double or more in girth, and gain
an inch or two in length. It's well worth the cost to buy a professionally
made pump and cylinder.
Is
it dangerous?
The most frequent
problem is someone who is overly anxious to see their penis very large,
and goes overboard on the pumping, applying too much pressure to the
penis. The important thing to remember is to go slow and increase the
vacuum gradually over a longer period of time, so that the change in
size is not traumatic and does not cause damage to the penis. Long sessions
are better than short high pressure ones.
What
is a cock ring?
It is an object
that typically goes around the base of both the penis and scrotum. As
veins are closer to the surface of the skin than arteries, wearing the
'cock ring' has the effect of allowing blood to flow into the penis
but restricts its ability to flow outwards. This makes the penis get
hard and stay hard for longer. For the 'cock ring' to be effective,
it must be put on when the penis is not erect. When choosing a 'cock
ring', size does matter. A 'cock ring' that is too loose will have no
effect on the user; while a 'cock ring' that is too tight will cut off
all retreating blood flow, thus preventing the penis from ever getting
soft which can become very painful. To get around this problem, some
'cock rings' are made with snaps at different places along a strap of
leather, thus making it easier to fit to size as well as remove. The
best cock rings are even simpler. They're a piece of leather or soft
rope tied into place. (7oz leather lace is the author's favorite, followed
by 1/4" nylon rope.) Being both infinitely adjustable and easy to remove
or cut off with a pair of nurse's shears, they serve all the purpose
of the toy- or hardware- store bought models.
How
do you put on a cock ring?
The easiest
way to both put the 'cock ring' on and take it off is to not be erect.
To put the 'cock ring' on, you place your testicles through the ring,
and then your penis, since at that stage your penis should be softer
and more flexible than the always- solid testes. Taking it off is the
reverse process, but since one of the purposes of a cock ring is to
keep you hard, this can be easier said than done.
Food
is sexy
Many romances
start over dinner, and cooking for someone can be as intimate, or as
traumatic, as having sex with them.
What
kinds of food are sexy?
Sweets, such
as chocolates, are actual tokens of affection, exchanged on Saint Valentine's
Day as well as other occasions. In the bedroom, chocolate can be spread
on the body and licked off. The same is true of honey or any other spreadable
substance. Whipped cream is another popular food item. And a small spill
of champagne over the vulva can take care of any concerns one might
have about the taste-- for a little while, at least. Fruits can also
be sexual-- bananas are often compared to penises (or the other way
around) because of their shape and size. Xaveria Hollander, "The happy
hooker," once referred to peaches, as "the fruit that looks most like
a woman's vulva." And grapes, fed one at a time, are a staple of B-movies
about decadent, imperial Romans. Placing doughnuts around a man's erect
penis and then eating them off can be an act of trust. Be aware that
any sugary substance placed into the vagina will vastly increase the
chance of a yeast infection. It is best to avoid getting chocolate,
honey, and the like into the vagina.
What
is meant by lubricant?
A "lubricant,"
(sometimes referred to as a "sex lube," or just "lube,") is usually
a water-based, condom-friendly liquid or jelly used to enhance or replace
a woman's natural lubrication. Some people regard lubricants as a must-have
item in this age of safer sex and are an essential ingredient to successful
anal intercourse. The use of a lubricant on the inside of a condom can
make the sensations delivered to the penis much stronger. Prior to the
current, safer-sex era, many people used oil-based lubricants, using
Vaseline or mineral oil. Neither of these is particularly healthy; petroleum-based
oils destroy latex upon contact, making them useless for use with condoms.
Oils also coat the inside of the vagina and rectum, providing a breeding
ground for dangerous bacteria. Even monogamous couples who don't have
to worry about safer sex should avoid using oils for this reason, as
well as one other: if it destroys the latex of condoms, it will also
destroy the latex of diaphragms, cervical caps, and sponges, as well
as the protective coatings around some IUDs.
So,
what are they made of?
Most lubricants
are made up of one or (more commonly) several of the following: glycerin,
hydroxyethyl cellulose, or propelyene glycol. Some add aloe vera or
vitamin E acetate. All add a pH-balancing agent, and most have some
sort of preservative, since the first three items are all essentially
food additives, "thickening agents
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